Let’s start with Ephesians 5:22-29:
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
In verses 22 and 23, there are some things modern women object to, namely submission to their husband and the husband being the head of the wife.
Let’s wait a minute before we jump to conclusions. We need to consider what the husbands are being told.
In verse 25, husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ gave His life for His church. Which says a husband is supposed to love his wife enough to die for her. That’s a pretty great love.
In verse 26 and 27, we see the results of Christ’s sacrifice of Himself for His church. Christ sanctified and cleansed His church with His own blood and presented her to Himself as a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. Husbands are supposed to do this for their wives by washing them with the water of the word. This means studying the Bible, the water of His word, with her as they grow in the Lord together.
In verse 28 and 29, the husband is supposed to love his wife as himself, nourish her and cherish her in the same way Christ does the church.
If your husband is loving you the way Christ loved the church, he is putting your needs before his own so much so that he would give his life for you. That’s a man I can make my leader, because Christ is his leader.